This is the Tom P. Blake "Finding Love after 50" and "Finding Love after 60" newsletter for Friday, July 3, 2015.
Online dating: Success stories and romance scams
My life partner Greta and I were in Costco this week. As we were leaving the store, an older gentleman walked up and asked if I was Tom Blake. He said he had been reading my newspaper articles for years and wanted to know if I'd be willing to give a speech to a retired men's club he belongs to.
"On what topic?" I asked.
"Retirement, and perhaps some dating tips for older guys."
I said I'd be happy to and gave him my business card.
And then he said, "I'm 77 and met my girlfriend on Match.com last year. She lives about an hour away; we see each other several times per week. It is quite an interesting story."
I asked him to email me the details and perhaps I could do a story about them. I like to hear good news stories regarding how older people met because meeting a mate later in life can be difficult. I particularly like hearing about older people who meet via the Internet. When I get his story, I will share it with you.
When I got home, there was an email from Barbara Sluppick, a woman I've known for years, who heads up an organization called Romance Scams.org. She has dedicated more than a decade trying to warn people about the dangers of romance scams.
Romance Scams.org website home page statistics:
Membership as of March 15, 2015: 20,689
Total membership since June 6, 2005: 59,000+
Scammers reported as of May, 2013: 5,529
Scammer photographs submitted as of May, 2013: 10,502
Money Loss reported as of May, 2013: $25,892,000 by 1,813 people
Barbara was excited because she is quoted in a very detailed, heart-wrenching story in the latest AARP magazine about a widow who lost $300,000, her retirement savings, to a scammer. I strongly encourage all Champs to take the time to read this story. We've got to protect our Champs from getting scammed (link below).
So, today we have the good news and bad news sides of Internet dating. My intention is not to make our Champs so leery of using the Internet for dating that they stop using it. After all, there are success stories we keep hearing about. It can be a helpful tool for meeting potential mates. But, I want you to be so educated about it that you will never fall victim to scammers and people who have bad intentions.
That being said, I recommend people who plan to date online or are dating online to also read a post on our Finding Love after 50 Facebook page by Champ Patricia Klages Thomas regarding what she has learned about online dating. She posted it late Tuesday and you can find it there if you are a member of our Facebook group. There is a lot of common sense in her post.
Informational links from today's newsletter:
www.RomanceScams.org (remember, it is .org and not .com)
AARP article about woman who lost $300,000
Finding Love after 50 Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/groups/48063349638/
Enjoy your July 4th week-end. Be safe.
Part 2 -Solo travel and Facebook update
A. More about women traveling alone
My sister Pam in
who often travels alone, sent the names of two books that are helpful for women
traveling alone, which both can be found on Amazon.com: San Diego
- "A Woman Alone: Travel Tales from Around the Globe" (stories by different authors)
- "Nothing to Declare" by Mary Morris
Our closed Facebook group - Finding Love After 50 is up to 98 members and there are now 12 men. There are many sage comments from the members. Heck, I am even learning from what is being posted.
For example, look at Gordon Grimm's comments about marriage later in life on July 1. I agree with him.
And give a big shout out to Larry Coats, the widower from
Texas who so graciously shared his story with us three weeks ago.
And now look at him, he's on our Finding
Love After 50 Facebook page with a nice photo.
Remember, you must request to join the group and I will approve your request.